A *VERY* important archery equipment buying question

[DeoreDX]

You guys have a lot more experience with this then I do...

but is it better to ask for permission or beg for forgiveness?


For those of you who choose to beg for forgiveness...

Do you let the package(s) arrive and possibly surprise her hoping you may intercept it and tote it away before she sees it or do you say "Hey, there may be a package showing up tomorrow."

[rastaman]

They are all shipped to my business address!  

[Jeff Strubberg]

21 years of marriage....


Ask.  There is no possesion worth ticking off your life-mate.

[SCATTERSHOT]

My wife has pretty much given up on me.....

But, to answer your question, I think it's better to beg forgiveness. After all, you may slip it by her.

[Yellow Dog]

Fess up. After you get caught a few times they pay close attention to the "pile". They know when it gets bigger and when it gets smaller. When it gets bigger, "how much was that?". When it gets smaller, "what did you do with the money?". You can only run the forgiveness scam so many times!!!

[Tim Fishell]

It is a thin line your walking!!  But I do have bows shipped to work most of the time.

[Hawkeye]

Amen, Wise One!    

30 years of marriage brings the same conclusion!

[saltwatertom]

What Jeff said, but,.... better yet, get her to be interested in archery and then buy it for you (or her). My wife is eagerly awaiting her new bow so I can build up some custom arrows.  

[Hawkeye]

I was replying to Jeff, but all the inbetween post came in like popcorn as I typed.  Edit feature is down right now...

It is most pleasant to do it right and enjoy the bow when you pick it up instead of wondering if she'll figure it out THIS time!

[GMMAT]

My greatest fear is that I die.....and my sife sells all of my hunting gear for what she thinks it cost.

[vermonster13]

Open a separate bow account. Don't touch house funds. Use it for buying, trading and selling. Then you need neither permission nor forgiveness.

[NW Jamie]

After 46 years my wife has admitted that I am much better at asking forgiveness that begging upfront. I take that as she probably gets a better deal when I beg for forgiveness than when I ask upfront, she says no, then we both get mad and I go and do it without the fun of then begging and making it up to her after it's none. LOL Nice post that is on all of our minds.

[rastaman]

and mine was said in jest! 25 years of marriage and she is happy that it's a good vice!  

[Talondale]

Not to take a silly question too seriously but if you can't afford it don't buy it.  If you can afford it then you probably should have an "allowance" that each of you is able to spend any way you want.

[John Scifres]

All my hunting purchases come from a separate fund generated by extra work v. coming from the family budget.  Kristin doesn't know or care what I buy, which really isn't much anyway.  Her out-of-budget purchases are funded in the same way.

[ron w]

After 32 years,15 muzzleloader,10 rifles,3 handguns,and 25 bows-mostly custom, I don't hide anything from the wife,I just tell her that there are worst things I could be doing and she says "your right,At least I know where you are and what your doing"!!!! Plus I don't take $$$ from the household funds.

[Charlie Lamb]

Haven't had that problem since I got a new Shafer Silvertip for my wife.... best trade I ever made!!!

  :D

[Gatekeeper]

I have always understood that women love surprises...Surprise look what I got in the mail.

This may only work once.

[Bill Tell]

Tell her it is coming and then open it right in front of her.  Let her know how much this means to you and that it will make you happy.  Tell her that if you really like it you would like to get her one too.  So that you could do it together.  Make it a shared experience.  I have always told my wife that it is a pretty inexpensive hobby and have tried to keep it as such.  Right now a round of golf will set you back at least the cost of six arrows.  Pro Baseball tickets for a family of 4 will set you back the cost of a bow.  I always ask for extra stuff for birthday gifts, fathers day, christmas, cinco de mayo, presidents day, arbor day.

If you think it is going badly tell her all bows have a woman's name and name it after her mother.  Just don't name it after your girlfriend prior to her.

[coaltroll]

Charlie, Where can I get a trade like that? In reality My wife is really good about that. I take it out of my "mad money" account and she has no problem as long as I get her something also. Heck, while bidding on the auction, she asked if I had enough. A good agreeable wife is hard to come by, so if you have one, hold on to her. 24 years for us.