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Title: A Son's Love, Thanks Dad
Post by: kshunter55 on July 15, 2015, 02:34:00 PM
Periodically browsing through the POW WOW posts here on tradgang I see posts of Fathers and relatives who are passing down their love of traditional archery to the youth in their lives.  I'm here today to tell the other side of the story.

I grew up in rural KS and was one of the blessed kids in the world to have an amazing dad.  From the time I can remember, he was always taking me hunting, fishing, and teaching me how to become a man.  It didn't take long for his love for traditional archery to take hold deep in my soul. Shooting bows and hunting was always our greatest connection, but not our only one.  

We also had many great times throughout my baseball career. One of my favorite memories was when I was with the Tigers and dad came down on the field when we defeated the Yankees to win the ALCS in 2012.  His eyes were as wide as mine watching a big buck come in haha.  50,000 screaming fans was a lot to digest for a small town, blue collar, country boy.  Still, at the end of the day it was simply hunting and bows.  That's what we lived, breathed, and loved.

In March of 2014 I had to have my first back surgery, years of swinging bats and bucking bails took its toll.  After tons of rehab and hard work my back never recovered enough to play.  It was a tough blow, but that's life and they let me go home in late September.  My wife and I spent a few days in Detroit with her family then we drove straight though and got back to Kansas Saturday morning October 4th.  

After a few hours of sleep I was up and around excited to hangout with Mom and Dad and start getting my archery gear together.  The whole day Dad and I hung out shooting bows, talking about hunting and life.  We even went out with my sister's kids and brother in-law to put up a tree stand. I was mainly pointing fingers like a foreman with a bad back should haha.

As it got late Dad and I talked about our deer hunting strategies for the season like we have done a million times.  He dosed off in his chair like always and I went to bed for the night.  I didn't know it, but it would be our last talk.  I'm tearing up thinking about it.  The next morning Sunday October 5th Dad went to his final home unexpectedly.  After all the chaos of the ambulance and hospital, I was in shock and devastated.  I had lost my best friend, mentor, hunting buddy, and role model.  

It took me a bit to pick up a bow and think about that deer season, but I knew what he would want me to do.  With some encouragement from my brother I strung up his old bighorn recurve.  It was the bow he had shot for most of his life.  I used it last season in his honor and would spend hours in the stand reminiscing on how many amazing times we had.

That last day with dad could not have been anymore perfect and I thank God for giving it to me.  There is something seriously special about bowhunting.  Call it primal, call it connecting with nature, call it whatever you want.  For me it's indescribable.  Its part of my soul, its who I am, and there is a deep rooted connection with others who feel it.

So this is to all of you who take the time and make the sacrifice to pass on what you love to the youngsters.  It may go unappreciated now, but I am here to tell you for them in advance.  THANK YOU! My wife and I are expecting our first kid in about a month.  Guess what?  It's a boy!  God works in mysterious ways, and I can't wait to do all the things with him that my dad did with me.

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The buck I shot that season with dad's bow.
Title: Re: A Son's Love, Thanks Dad
Post by: dirtguy on July 15, 2015, 03:21:00 PM
Thanks for your story.  Get that boy a bow!
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Post by: bear bowman on July 15, 2015, 03:22:00 PM
Great story. I'm very sorry for your loss. Sounds like you'll be keeping him alive in your heart.
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Post by: 4dogs on July 15, 2015, 03:38:00 PM
:campfire:
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Post by: BHall on July 15, 2015, 04:05:00 PM
I'm glad I took the time to read your post.  Sometimes I get in a hurry in life but you reminded me to slow down and take it all in.  Good stuff--thanks.
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Post by: awbowman on July 15, 2015, 04:22:00 PM
Thanks for sharing.  

It was my Dad's birthday Monday.  He would have been 89 and has been gone for 9 years now. My sister spent the day reliving a lot of old times we had with him.  By today's standards, people would have said he was too TOUGH on us, but I don't think he ever knew how good of a job he did raising us.
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Post by: fnshtr on July 15, 2015, 04:29:00 PM
Yes, thanks for sharing. Reminded me of my Father who died in 2005. He was still bowhunting from a treestand at 81 years of age.

Thankful for his influence in my life.

  :pray:
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Post by: MnFn on July 15, 2015, 04:39:00 PM
Thanks for sharing Andrew.

A lot of stuff wasn't too good between my Dad and I, but the very best times were when we were hunting and fishing.  I learned a bunch from him, and he gave me my first hunting bow. I still have it  fifty years later, along with his 68" recurve.

The very things he couldn't say to me I saw him make a point of  saying to my kids. That was his example that I do follow.  I make sure every chance I get to tell my kids and grandkids how important they are to me, and make a point of spending time with them whether it is boating, fishing or bowhunting.
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Post by: Michael Arnette on July 15, 2015, 05:12:00 PM
That was a good read! Thanks for sharing and very sorry for your loss but happy for the memories made.
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Post by: wooddamon1 on July 15, 2015, 05:13:00 PM
Sorry for your loss, Andy. I'm glad you have the memories of him, sounds like a great Dad as I'm sure you will be.
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Post by: Caughtandhobble on July 15, 2015, 05:27:00 PM
Sounds like your dad mapped out your future as a great dad. Good luck with your upcoming son and may God Bless you and your family.
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Post by: Lady Frost on July 15, 2015, 07:31:00 PM
What a beautiful story.  Thank you for sharing.  Congrats on the baby boy.
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Post by: Gerry on July 15, 2015, 07:36:00 PM
What a beautiful way to remember your dad, I am sure you will pass that to your son.  Thanks for sharing.
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Post by: pghrich on July 15, 2015, 08:18:00 PM
Nice very well written story, thank you, rich pyle
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Post by: KSCATTRAPR on July 15, 2015, 11:44:00 PM
Great write up. Your dad was one hell of a guy and bow hunter, and I'm sure he's proud of the man you are today! Can't wait for your little guy to get here, they are a blast!
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Post by: Big Lefty on July 15, 2015, 11:55:00 PM
Thanks for taking the time to write that.  Best of luck with that little boy!  I've got two, and I don't know what I would do without them.
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Post by: DWT on July 16, 2015, 04:42:00 AM
Great story, great buck, and great compassion. You can feel the depth of feeling you have for your dad and bow hunting ooze out of your story.
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Post by: Tom on July 16, 2015, 06:19:00 AM
Thank you for taking the time to share your father's story with us. My Dad wasn't a hunter but encouraged me to enjoy nature in the form of hunting,fishing,trapping. He always listened to my adventures with sparkling eyes. He's been gone since'09 but always walks with me in the woods now. Congrats on the impending little boy. Enjoy as time is fleeting and before you know it they are grown.
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Post by: Cyclic-Rivers on July 16, 2015, 07:20:00 AM
Beautiful story. Congrats on the upcoming addition to your family.
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Post by: sheepdogreno on July 16, 2015, 09:08:00 AM
Thanks for sharing your story...makes me wanna call my father...
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Post by: huckbuck on July 16, 2015, 09:32:00 AM
The circle of life is an amazing trip, thanks for sharing!
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Post by: Ron LaClair on July 16, 2015, 10:27:00 AM
Andy I'm so sorry to hear about your Dad's passing, I know that you two shared a deep love for bow hunting. I'm sure that was a real high for you when you took that dandy buck with his bow last fall. His spirit will live on in you and be passed down to your son.

My own dad has been gone for many years but I still have fond memories of the times I had with him hunting and fishing. He shared his love for the outdoors with me when I was just a tad and I did the same with my two sons.

If you and your family ever get to Michigan I hope you find time to stop in the shop again.


 Andy and I in my shop when he drove up from Detroit on his day off  

   (http://www.shrewbows.com/rons_linkpics/Andy%20Dirks%20at%20the%20Shop.JPG)
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Post by: IndaTimber on July 16, 2015, 10:34:00 AM
Well written and expressed.  I lost my Dad, "Pops", almost three years ago and hearing your story makes me feel even more blessed to know that we had about a year before a terminal brain tumor took him from us.  

We had a blast that last year together and I catch myself laughing at some of the things we got into and then a since of pride comes over in how he handled his death sentence.

CONGRATS on the baby boy!!  Little ones are a blast and you will definitely understand your dad a little more after having one.
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Post by: fishone on July 16, 2015, 11:09:00 AM
Thank-you so much for your story!!!!!
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Post by: Tsalt on July 16, 2015, 11:10:00 AM
In a culture where Dads seem to be increasingly absent (either physically or just emotionally), your story is especially touching.  I'm so sorry for your loss but happy for the awesome father you had and all the memories that can never be taken from you.  
Congrats on a son of your own!  Thanks so much for sharing.  
Blessings.

PS  Awesome buck!
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Post by: kennyb on July 16, 2015, 07:27:00 PM
Andy-sorry for the loss of your dad as he was a good man, I can tell. Heck of a nice buck he sent your way too!
Big Tiger fan here and seen you play a few times at Comerica Park. Godspeed to you and family!

Kenny      :goldtooth:
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Post by: Hawkeye on July 17, 2015, 01:36:00 PM
Andy,

After the fact, I so often find that the difficulties of life with its twists and turns end up being the camouflage that blessings come wrapped within.

I was sorry to hear of your career-ending surgery, but thankful to see that it ended up bringing you home at JUST the right time to share a few days that you will treasure forever.

I'm sorry for your loss, but hope you can use your great dad's legacy to be that kind of father to your new son.

Thanks for sharing your story.
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Post by: recurve3 on July 17, 2015, 01:48:00 PM
Andy,

great story and sorry for your loss. Honestly made me more than a bit emotional reading as I lost my dad in April.
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Post by: Yohon on July 17, 2015, 02:24:00 PM
Great heart felt story....sounds like we have similar Dad's....I miss mine all the time.....that lil one's hugs will be the best thing ever tho!!!!
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Post by: Ray Lyon on July 17, 2015, 03:22:00 PM
Thank you for the story Andy. Well written.  Congratulations on your baby news.  Hold on tight because your ride is about to fast forward.

Here's one of my daughters at around 4 years old at a shoot in Grayling, MI where the girls learned they had an "Uncle Ron" LaClair:
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And of course they grow all too quickly.  If you get to Michigan a few times to see 'Uncle Ron', he can help hook you up with cool stuff like this at Christmas for the young man:
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  :thumbsup:    :thumbsup:
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Post by: Steve O on July 17, 2015, 05:04:00 PM
Thanks Andy. As the father of a 16 year old I am doing the best I can, hoping for a similar story.

We miss you on the field! Was at Comerica the other day wondering how you were doing.
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Post by: Producer on July 17, 2015, 05:27:00 PM
Thank you for sharing your story Andy
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Post by: South MS Bowhunter on July 17, 2015, 10:31:00 PM
Love the story and felt the emotion in the writing of it.  The words penned the thoughts of the heart and the passing of your father will leave a void that's hard to fill.
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Post by: DiamondD on July 17, 2015, 10:49:00 PM
Thank you for sharing such a heartfelt personal story Andy.  So sorry for the loss of your dad and so happy to hear of your son!

Dean
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Post by: Firstlight on July 17, 2015, 11:19:00 PM
Thank you for you heartfelt story.  Pretty special you got to use your Dad's bow on a successful hunt.
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Post by: Gav on July 19, 2015, 09:12:00 PM
Thank you for sharing your story about you and your Dad's relationship. Great buck and very special to take it with your Dad's bow.
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Post by: Tradcat on July 19, 2015, 09:25:00 PM
Great story and good to hear you honor your Father.  Sounds like he was a great man !
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Post by: JMR on July 19, 2015, 10:22:00 PM
Great story and very sorry for your loss. Remember all the fun you had with your Dad and pass that on to your little ones. They will remember it someday too. (Throw the baseball around a little too!)