it looks like I am going to spend about a week in eastern San Diego County this summer on vacation, really against my will! Overbearing in-laws have got the wife insisting on spending time there. Not my idea of a good time. Any bowhunters in San Diego know how I can get away for a 3d shoot or maybe some coyote hunting? We are talking about the 2nd or 3rd week of August near Julian, CA. Help guys, this is going to be bad.
Julian is awesome!! If you want to trade places....let me know. My old stomping grounds.... =0)
Pull up Bear state archers, they have 3d at Lake Henshaw, mostly compound but some trad.
Beachbowhunter is from there maybe he canhelp
there is a state wildlife area 10 milrs away here is a link. http://www.dfg.ca.gov/lands/articles/sanfelipe01.html
Don,
I graduated from Julian HS in 1966 and worked summers at Lake Henshaw. It's a beautiful area in spite of in-laws.
Tom
Suck it up, and quit whining. Give the wife her week.. It'll pay in the long run.
Yeah tell her its gonna cost her a new bow.
That's how I roll. :laughing:
Earl E., Thank you for being a true friend to Magwa45 and telling him the truth!
We need folks like you who will tell us the truth and not just what we want to hear.
Plus it's really good advice! It can make a positive difference in your life, even the hunting portion.
IMHO
God bless,Mudd
Trials and tribulations of In-Laws
Gotta go with Earl on this one..... give and take bro !!!
It could be much worse, like in October or November.
Good one TJ :thumbsup:
I feel your pain. There are some guys who hunt hogs down there look into a trip. Plus there should be miles of stump shooting ( read dead cactus ) within driving distance. I find that spending some time ( holidays ). Spend some time with the relatives and some away doing what you love. It is a good comprimise and that is what being in a family is all about.
I'm with Earl E. and Mudd on this one it will pay dividends in the future. If you give it a chance with a positive attitude it might not be so bad.
I'm with Earl, Mudd and Tater.
I'm going with what TJ said. And the fact its not in the fall.
been there done that ,some think marriage is 50/50 ,,wrong its 100/100,someone already said it ,its give and take.you may just find it very rewarding to stand by her side.suck it up it wont kill ya
Earl and ED hit the door bell on this one. After 34 years of marrage i look back and maybe thing might be alittle differant now if I had of shared my vacation with my wife and kids and gave the Inlaws the respect the deserved, have a great week.
Good advice from everyone! My sister inlaw and her family live in San Diego. My inlaws only live a couple ours from us in Kansas. A couple of times the inlaws have paid for all of us to flyout and visit.
I always look forward to my one day of get away on the trip where the men all go on one of the big deep sea fishing boats. Not to expensive and always catch some fish. All tackle and bait provided. Seems like it might have been in the 60 to 80 dollar range for a half day of fishing.
I grew up in East county and loved it. You will too. Lot's of places to stump shoot and there are shooters out there. There is more stuff to do in San Diego than any other city I have been too. ENJOY IT!
Im a memebr of bearstate it is a beautiful place to shoot there is a fun shoot the 22nd of august. The lake has great crappie fishing that time of year and the area is awesome. If you want to meet there to shoot the fun shoot let me know ill make arrangments to attend that one.
Can't blame you for looking for some shooting action but I'd advise doing that ONE day and spend the rest with your wife's family. If you bolt everyday they will definitely know you don't like them and you will pay dearly the rest of your life.
Find some common ground with your father in law and have some fun with him. Otherwise hold your nose and pretend you are having fun. Don't ruin the trip for your wife.
Good advice on devoting some more of yourself and your time to your family (yes, inlaws are family) - especially your wife. I learned the lesson the hard way and I conduct my behavior now with more grace. Like some have said before if you give yourself a chance by being positive you might like it!
She'll remember it forever - Good or bad...your choice!
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Glenn
The warm sunny beaches of San Diego? Oh, the horror!
I'd get on my knees and thank God they don't live in Fresno, Bakersfield, Los Banos, or a myriad of other places in California that really do indeed suck.
Now if it gets too intolerable there's an Orca you can swim with at Sea World! :thumbsup:
Well Don, I'm gonna forward this thread to your wife! hahahahah..
Just kidding man...
Keep in mind the in laws made the girl you sleep with!
I gotta go with the party poopers if you love your bride.Bring bow and smile. :rolleyes:
Julian is an awesome place!I spent many weekends around there and Anza-Borrego state park when I was stationed at Miramar.I'd love to go back there for a week or so.
There's a TON worse places in CA it could be...
It's simple
A happy wife is a happy life.
Consider the trip an investment in a future hunt or bow or truck or motorcycle or ATV or ...
JW
I was coerced into a trip to see my inlaws this year in Florida.After I protested my wife suggested that I go hog hunting with my son in law during our stay.I cant wait to see them!
I hope my son in law doesn't think along these lines....then again...I'm such a fun guy. I have him buffaloed into thinking I REALLY know how to catch fish when he goes with me. In reality he is the Irish lucky charm. He and I have fun together, fishing, playing golf and drinking beer. I'm blessed.
I went to that general area for a wedding (wife's family) in August of last year. Tons to do. I would love to go back. No sympathy here. ;)
Thanks for all the advice guys. I do have a Kodiak Magnum which could be short enough to take on the plane. Usually I shoot longbows. Does anyone know if you can carry on a short recurve? There is a lake good for fishing not to far away.
Yes, I want to keep the wife happy and will probably have to bite the bullet. To use the pop psychology term, the in-laws have "boundary issues" or no respect for the privacy of others. Try spending 4-5 days in a small cabin with the in-laws, wife and two small kids. It is enough to drive anyone up a wall. That is what I did last summer. Anyway, that is what I have to deal with.
just ship the longbow to your in laws a few days before you head out.
I'm with Earl E. and Mudd on this as well. Besides do you really want to take a chance of your bow getting lost or broken between Maryland and San Diego? You probably wouldn't have much time to shoot anyway. We all know how family vacations go.
Yea and think about what you can do for your in-laws. Loving on them will honor your wife and make things a lot better at home.
I really love trad gang, and have made very good friends here,
Friends tell you what they need to say not what you want to hear, you can do both, have patience and love with the familiy
Against the grain a bit here - regardless of relationship, I will only show limited respect to those who will not respect me. Do what you need to do so it does not grow to an even bigger issue down the line.
I have tried for years to get along with my inlaws,but not anymore.Respect goes both ways.
Support your wife,but if your inlaws are people you don't care for tell your wife you will go but don't expect you to fake whats not there.
Tell your wife to go enjoy HER family and you will do your own thing.
Always has worked for me,I can't fake whats not there.
Good luck,
Ken