Trad Gang
Main Boards => Prayers/Concerns/Honors/Ailments => Topic started by: NightHawk on August 26, 2010, 12:31:00 AM
-
I could use a few prayers for what direction I'm supposed to go, have some personal issues and just not sure what to do. Guess I need a wall to fall on me letting me know what and when
Thanks
Joe
-
Joe, I know the feeling! Best I can tell you is to keep praying, reading your bible, and be patient. I keep learning over and over that his timing is perfect, mine is not! He's got a plan and if you truly desire to follow his will, he will get you where you need to be!
I struggle alot with wondering if I am going the right way or not. And what I have learned over and over is he will get you there, just not usually in the way you would have expected!
will pray you to see clearly which way to go!
-
Joe, praying that you have piece of mind in the difficult issue you are dealing with.
-
Hooked nailed it. Trust God and we'll be praying.
Ray
-
Another vote for Chip's (Hooked)input. I'd also add to that sometime's His will isn't what we want or like... But it is HIS will and as a believer, we're to follow His lead in faith and "step out of the boat".
I fear that is my worst short-coming among many.
May discernment, peace and strength to follow His will be yours through this challenging time.
Keep the Son in your eyes!
-
Those that wait on the Lord will renew their strength, they shall mount upon wings like eagles, they shall run and not grow weary, they shall walk and not faint.
In Isaiah, the scripture gives us directly the understanding that we are to wait upon Gods advise. In order to hear his advise, we must listen. That is hard sometimes with all that is keeping us busy these days.
Ask and listen, he will guide.
-
Amen. My God open the door and put the wind at your back.
-
prayers sent
-
Nighthawk, scripture comes to me as when i have felt as you do now. be still and know that i am GOD. just spend time alone in prayer an listen for that small voice. he will give us direction, he always does. be strong, when things seem so bad, he will bring us up, it brings glory to him. give him praise and thank him for the trial your going through, it will truly build your faith. keep pushing forward, you know the enemy doesn't want us to seek GOD. MY PRAYERS ARE WITH YOU.
-
Joe, hang in there. Pray always. It's tough to try to figure out the right way to go through tough times. God won't turn his back on you. prayer sent.
-
Instead of a wall hitting me, I guess I hit it. I imploded but life is worth living, it's a beautiful day one of those that hints of fall to come. Hopefully with GODS help all this mess can be rectified and put back how it should be. For the first time in 16 years I am off of prescription pain pills. I feel like a completely different person, I like this guy, the one that's not moody, angry but relaxed and able to think in peace. THANK YOU EVERYONE for your prayers, I still need them because the road is going to be a long one, but the longest journey starts one footstep at a time ;)
-
Praise God!!!!!!!! Go for it you're pointed in the right direction.
-
As said above he will show us the way..
Gods 2x4 up side the head will get us back on line....
Nighthawk Glad you are still with us....
You are right its one step at a time.....
Later......Buzz
-
Just like in a treestand, the darkest hour is just before dawn.
May your time in darkness but be the waiting for the deer to stir, and the woods come alive.
there WILL be hard times, those meds want you back, but you made the choice and now YOU and GOD together can lick anything!
Keep the Son in your eyes! I konw you can do it!!!
-
I wanted to update this thread since I haven't been here in a couple of days. My wife filed for divorce and that's very hard because I do love her very much. I am going to church and drawing closer to the LORD. I keep praying that he will soften her heart and we can get back togather and work on the marriage along with counseling.I know the lord wont go past her free will, so I am preparing myself for the worst.Maybe sometime in the future we can try again as I do believe GOD put us togather and from what I read and understand, he only sanctions divorce based on adultry. I never had an affair with anyone (not that I didn't have the opportunity, but I chose not to )
I was prepared to give her the everything because I feel like I didn't work for myself but rather I worked for the betterment of my family. Then I seen in the divorce papers where she has petitioned the court to restore her maiden name. That made me angry, so now I've instructed my attorney to fight for everything and not to offer her anything. What I understand the courts put all the assets in one pile and the bills in another pile and they start by assuming a 50/50 split of everything. Then each party is allowed to show or argue why they should have a larger stake, so the fight is on
I don't recognize the person that filled out that paper, seems like my wife disappeared and a stranger has taken her place. She wants support on my 20 year old daughter. My daughter works at Ruby Tuesdays as a waitress and didnt go back to school this semester, even though she enrolled she didn't pay and attend any classes.She's also asking for maintanence which is like a short term alimony.
Any how there is alot going on and all I can do is give it to Jesus and let him handle it because I'm not capable of doing anything to make things better. The only thing I can do is take care of myself and that includes financially so I can be there for my kids as they live their lives and the future grand kids that will surely be in my future sometime.
I will ask for prayers from everyone to keep uplifting my family and for Jesus to soften her heart and let her see the error of her ways, because I do believe divorce is a sin (unless there is adultry and there is no such thing in this case)and the wages of sin are very bad. God has a way of disiplining us when we need it in order to bring us to our knees and back to him
-
Sounds like a full plate, but nothing that many of us have undergone or know others who have, Joe.
That doesn't take one thing away from THIS is YOUR time and it sucks! you know what lies ahead and you see the road you must take.
Anger begats anger, but no man should be a door mat for other's abuse... and then yet again, there is that 'turn the other cheek'.
You've a lot to wrestle. My prayers will be for discernment, peace that passes understanding and that His will be done in your heart and her life.
Be at peace and search your heart. What Would Jesus do? Hard one on these things... and I've got no crystal ball to share.
Keep the Son in your eyes!
-
Prayers sent
-
Keep your faith in OUR LORD and he will show which path to take in your life.
In HIS service
Dave
-
my brother, you just painted a picture of me. from you feeling like she is someone else to,the name change( my ex called me immuture because i walked out of the lawyers office when they blindside me with her wanting to go back to her maiden name.) we did spilt everything down the middle with shared parenting. i prayed for GOD to soften her heart, to make her see what she was doing, and to realize she was going againist his will. deep down i wanted him to knock her to her knees and take everything from her, but i knew i was wrong to feel that way. it's hurt, and deception that eats at you from the inside. i never even saw the the divorce comming, but GOD did. i cried, and prayed so much wanting him to change her mind, he didn't, but you can't give up. a friend of mine went through the same thing, his wife realized her mistake and there together after 15 years. we're talking about three personalities and different women. i pray your's will change her mind. one thing i do know, if GODS holy spirt is within her( i'm assumming she is a christian) she can't lay her head down at night and find any peace, he just will not leave her alone. he loves her that much. i didn't want him to love my ex, or to bless her. i knew the most important thing i could do was pray for her. i had to come to realize her relationship with GOD was far more important than ours. i loved her and just didn't want to see anything happen to her. if you would like to talk, pm me i'll give you my phone number. take care my brother, you praying and turning it over to jesus is the very best thing to do.
-
Wow. Amen to Bucks' powerful words and testament!
-
I'm still here, praying everyday. It still hurts very much and at times I have panic attacks.Feels like my stomache is eating itsself from the inside out at times and other times I'm just plain scarred by the thought of it all.
I don't care about the house things or any money or any assets, those things don't matter a hill of beans, but there is absolutley nothing I can do except pray and work on myself to be the best me possible
-
Bud,
I have a friend who has gone through a divorce and 20 yrs of abuse mental and emotional.
The are covered up in Fear. I'd like to say this. It haunts us all. Teddy Roosevelt is credit with saying, "There is nothing to fear but fear itself."
There is another i use: "Cowards die a thousand deaths, the valiant taste of death but once!"
What that all means to me is that fearing fear is worse then living through what we fear.
Anxiety attacks and being scared seem to me to be when I'm in internal conflict. I think I should feel one thing and I feel something else and it causes me to go blurry inside.
Admitting the fear, scaredness, and panic is a great start! Writing down what those fears actually look like can help. On paper, sometimes we see things more clearly.
Get some counseling and keep on keeping on.
One day at a time, one fear at a time...and each day we get stronger...devil sometimes latches on and messes us up, but tomorrow, we give him back to hell! :)
Keep the Son in your eyes!
-
Prayers sent Nighthawk. I have been there and done that, some 30 years ago. Like you, I was torn, battered, and scared. But what helped me was placing focus on my child. I have a wonderfull daughter, that I raised as a single parent. No regrets what so ever. Find something that you want to hang on to for YOURSELF. Concentrate on that, and let the other things go as they may. I know this may sound selfish, but it sure worked for me and I would not change a thing and do it all over again. Find a good support group, with people that are going to the same thing. It helps tremendously. I wish you the best, but like others have said, keep the faith and trust in him. He will make things right.
-
Today was not a good day for me. The preliminary hearing on the divorce was today and I lost big time. I will probably have to pay support on my 20 year old daughter. Her attorney asked for 800 a month and college costs. That means I will lose my home as I can't afford to pay that kind of money. The monthly bills take my entire check. My wife took care of the bills and that's how she set them up, so there is no way I can afford the support order. The court is supposed to rule on it today or tomorrow, but my paster told me I lost as he was sitting in the courtroom. I don't know what is in my future or if I even have a future. Please keep me in your prayers
-
You're only down when you quit getting back up!
Men rebound 80% within 3 years where women who are divorced seldom regain their quality of life had before marriage.
Whatever changes, it is monetary and many of us have lost most of what we once took forgranted in this economy.
With God on our side, we can rebuild...be better. Sometimes He asks us to "let go of our material world to come close to Him in surrender.
This might be a opportunity for that to happen with you and surrender all to Him who made you! Prayers for strength and will to submit.
Keep the Son in your eyes!
-
Praying for you. I know how bad it hurts and the shock of it.
-
Joe, I have been there and done it twice. I know the pain you are going through, but you will make it through with the support on here, your church family and with God. Look at it this way the house would only bring up memories and cause that anguish and pain, so when you find a new place to live look at it as a new lease on life.
After my second divorce I moved back to Alaska, where my heart has truly been since the first time I came here in 1983. Being in the Army I moved a lot, and I had always dreamed of being up here, but I knew she would never come back here. I saw the silver lining in the cloud and couldn't be happier. I guess what I'm saying is you have to look at it as an opportunity to grow. The more you look at it as a defeat you drag yourself down further and further.
Prayers are with you my friend and wish the best for you. God will take care of you, if you don't get in the way.
Nick
-
Nighthawk
I'll be praying for you. Here is a website that may help you while you go through this dark time.
I've been down that road and know how difficult it is. With God there is hope. He never leaves us or forsakes us.
Separated Men (http://www.separatedmen.com/)
-
joe, i've been through it twice, once when i was 19, the last at 48, 6 years ago. my whole world was yanked out from under me, i have two daughters, at the time they were 8 and 5. i won't try and tell you it will be easy, but you will make it and when you do your faith will have grown, as you will look back and know GOD was with you every step. doc and nick said two important things, surrender and don't get in the way. i felt i surrenderd, but now realize i didn't because i got in the way. i can hear my words of wisdom to my children echo," don't make the same mistakes you see other people make, watch and learn". in our human flesh we think GOD needs our help, in a flash he can fix more than we can mess up in a life time. GOD wants all of you and i believe one of the most important things you can do is pray for your wife. no matter how much we sin and fall short, JESUS would be praying for us. none of us know the future, but GOD does, we can feel like it's over, but you see, we didn't see the divorce coming and we don't see the big picture. joe i pray you have fogiven her, she is your sister in christ and GODS holy spirt will continue to work in her life as he will yours. he will take care of your needs just as he did mine, i certainly don't deserve the way he has blessed me. i pray GOD will speak to the jugdes heart and he will be fair. take care my brother, GOD loves you, and so do we. our home in heaven awaits us, when we look back, we will realize all the things on earth were only trivial, and helped us become one with GOD.