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Main Boards => Prayers/Concerns/Honors/Ailments => Topic started by: bowdude on April 27, 2008, 06:03:00 PM
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Well my oldest daughter who has been the cause of so much grief over the years is at it again. Her mom has finally seen the end of her tolerance for her and is supposedly kicking her out for about the 8th and last time, (so she says).
Please keep Autumn in your prayers as she is a drug addict that has failed again. Extreme temper and violent. One of those people that if she wasn't family it wouldn't bother you to never see her again. How she had a little girl that is so sweet and calm, rarely cries and is just a smiling angel is beyond me.
So at the end of May she is on her own regardless if it is the street. She will probably lose her 2 children (which may be the best for them) and end up in the homeless shelter but we have had enuf. She is almost 30 now and in her 2nd divorce. She has no tolerance for anyone and shows no appreciation for the help she has been given. It is time for her to find her bottom if she has one. Hopefully she will make it back up, but like an evil crab in a world size bucket, she has been dragging everyone around her down with her. Terrible for a father to say, but you should know her!
Anyway thanks for your prayers, and God bless you all too.
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I will pray for you, Good luck with everything... Some day you never know, this may all work out...God bless
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My heart and prayers are for all family involved!
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Heart felt prayers for all involved.
God Bless
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bowdude prayers sent. Have a daughter in the same boat. My ex has enabled her year after year. Now she has the grand daughters and my daughter is in shelters. Now that she's lost everything she's looking to God for help but she thinks she can manipulate Him like she did her mom and she's mad because He won't give in to her. She's on her way out but wouldn't have gotten there if she hadn't lost everything. Hang in there dad and don't put yourselves down for making your daughter responsible for her actions. It's the only way she will realize that what she's doing is bad for her.
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Lord Bless this family with your compassion and healing. PLease reveal your plan to the daughter and release her from the chains of addiction that bind her. Amen
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Benbow's words ring sound and true. That "monkey" drugs create is more like an ape or 600# gorrilla, but enabling never helped anyone.
May God's grace, peace and love for all his fallen children keep this woman close while she struggles to find reality.
Bowdude, Keep the Son in your eyes! Trust all things to Him.
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Well I just found out she has left the state. Stole 2 credit cards ( ran up $800 already) and a months prescriptions from her mom and dropped off the little angel with her father and headed back to ex number 1 with his kid. What a life she is making for herself. Have told my ex to file charges and try and get her money back, don't know what she will do though.
Don't really mean to use this board as a psychiatrist, just had to talk to someone. She was instrumental in the last straw of our marriage and she is still causing problems. Oh well, Thats behind me right? What happens to her now is her problem.
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bowdude....praying for your daughter and her children....also lifting you up. praying that God will one day reach thru her hardened heart, that he would put someone in her life as a lifeline to His loving grace.
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Bowdude, yep, come and talk here. These kind and Christ-centered people have kept many of our heads above water in tough times.
It's a temptation to want to "let it go" and not care, but it's obvious that you still do care about this young woman. Trick might be to care enough to keep her in prayer as we're all trying to do, yet recognize when someone is so far out of the Will of God that only He can meet her where she is and help her come to terms with the path she's chosen.
Be a god-send if Mom would slap the law on her and start to make her accountable... and face consequences of her choices and behaviors.
Prayers for Autum, her child, your ex and yourself to find firm love and still keep her in prayer.
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Steve, Praying for your situation and daughter and all involved around it. It's a blessing to have this forum and many times I have been lifted up by reading the loving and honest words of others who have been dealing with the same or worse than I.
It's a strength given not anyhting else to have the ability to take another's burden and lift them up...not because it makes you fell better than them but because it encourages all and involves us closer with eachother in honesty and true caring and can commit to our Father as a Family and let Him take control.
Hebrews 4:14-16 is one I often go to when I feel like I just can't take anymore.
Shell (on hubby's login)
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Bowdude and BenBow, prayers being lifted. man, those are some heavy burdens you are bearing. God's strength and peace and love to you both.
Hope that you are able to stay connected without being manipulated or enabling. that's tough.
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Prayers for more grace and peace for you guys and your families!
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flood her with your grace dear lord and bring her into your glory
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BOWDUDE, That is a tough one. I have a son and daughter and we have had situations come up from time to time but not quite as frustrating as this must be.I am praying for you brother,keep your faith and keep your head on straight.
Even more so I am praying for your daughter.Someone needs to intervene in her life,through God of course,but a living,considerate,loving,human being.Someone that will have such an influence on her that she will see what she has done to herself and want to start climbing out of that hole.I am praying for you all.
PRAYIN HARD IN PA
Monkeyball
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with you in prayer for ALL involved....very tough situation!!!!
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BOWDUDE, I know you are fed up and dont know what to do, and rightfully so. Drugs are demonic, they are very hard to get away from make people do things they would never normally do. I know Im a recovered addict. I can say that the only thing that can heal a person from drugs is Jesus Christ. I encourage you to continue to pray for her b/c the word says God's word won't return void. He has a plan for her and He hears your prayers. You remain faithful and God will, in his time, answer your prayers. just make sure when he does you are ready to forgive. She cant beat drugs alone and maybe rock bottom will be a wake up call. but she will need you when she has had enough. people on drugs generally hate themselves. she just doesnt know her identity in Christ yet. I pray healing and blessings over your family and home your prodical daughter comes home soon.
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Father,
I lift up Autumn to you. I ask to you intercede and open her eyes. Where she is addicted, heal her. Where she has broken the law, make her accountable. Where she has damaged relationships, give her the opportunity to mend them. Allow her to be a true mother to her child and a loving and respectful daughter to her parents. Show her your mercy and your grace while you show her your endless love and her true worth in you. In Jesus Blessed Name....
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I feel ya Bro.Sounds like you know what needs to happen.I will pray for all involved,especially the children.
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She is in total denial. Blames current husband for leaving her because he took the baby and went back to Pittsburgh where his folks live. Blames her mom for not understanding. ??? :confused: Blames all the rest of the family for not defending her and sticking up for her actions. ?? Must be some new therapy method related to outcome based education. :biglaugh:
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Drug addiction is brutal. On the individual & all the people around them. My heart goes out to you. One thing that is hard to follow is that God loves the sinner, but not the sin. I will keep you in my prayers for you to find peace. I also will pray that the Holy Spirit can get her attention
God bless you!
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Some fine thoughts from others in here Bowdude. It has to be hard...I've been through this with a few friends and their kids... there is always that inner question for many parents of: Did I do something wrong?
Addictions are rammifications of bad choices ...and nobody can choose for another. God gives free choice...with the promise that when we choose to "redecide" He stands with open arms ready to rebuild and forgive.
Arkiewoodsman said it about the best I've seen... stand firm, don't enable, but be ready to forgive and try, try again when she comes to ask...but get counsel on how best to help that will help and not enable.
God will provide...but it has to be Autum's choice...
Just hit me ---how hard all this advice might be to live out...to be so "unconditional" in our human love when an adult childs hurt us so deeply...but then I smiled thinking, "Wow... This must be how Christ feels every day with each of us...and our recurring bad choices..."
Keep the Son in your eyes!
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bowdude prayers for confidence in your decision, strength to continue doing what is best for her, and God's love to heal the hurts she's caused so you can love her in spite of what she does.