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Title: Having to say goodby to my 1st Teacher,my 1st Instructor,my 1st best Friend,My Dad.
Post by: Stalker58 on July 09, 2006, 04:46:00 PM
His was big man,6'4",260lbs.Taught me everything I know.Honor,Honesty,Respect,Treat others as you want to be treated.
He showed me how to be A MAN.
He served 18yrs. in the U.S Navy,4 of which were during the Korean war(The Forgotten War).
He just turned 73 on 6/1/06.
He and his wife just celebrated there 50th.wedding anniversary,on 7/8/06.
He was diognosed with Asbestosis.
Now he's 5'11,170lbs.
He has less than 48% of his lung capacity left.
Prognosis is not good.Maybe 1yr.
The saying is"You don't know what you have till it's gone".
I guess that's unless you know it's going.
He's My Dad.
I plan on spending as much time as possable with him.
Steve Darcy(Stalker58)
Title: Re: Having to say goodby to my 1st Teacher,my 1st Instructor,my 1st best Friend,My Dad.
Post by: Stalker58 on July 09, 2006, 05:08:00 PM
Make that "He and My Mom just celebrated there 50th wedding anniversary"
Sorry
Title: Re: Having to say goodby to my 1st Teacher,my 1st Instructor,my 1st best Friend,My Dad.
Post by: Peckerwood on July 09, 2006, 08:11:00 PM
Steve, I also had to say goodbye to my dad almost 4 years ago (it seem like yesterday ). He was also my friend and teacher. The last thing he taught me was how to die with dignity and that death was just a part of life. We had a lot of talks about dying and the fact that it is just a transition to a better life without the confinements of a worn out body.
 I am forever grateful to have had opportunity to spend a lot of quality time with my dad till the end. So many don't get that chance.
Bill
Title: Re: Having to say goodby to my 1st Teacher,my 1st Instructor,my 1st best Friend,My Dad.
Post by: bear1336 on July 09, 2006, 08:54:00 PM
Prayers for you and your Dad on the way from Georgia.

In HIS service
Dave
Title: Re: Having to say goodby to my 1st Teacher,my 1st Instructor,my 1st best Friend,My Dad.
Post by: OconeeDan on July 09, 2006, 10:43:00 PM
More prayers sent from GA.  I hunt with my Dad and I dread the day that it ends.
Title: Re: Having to say goodby to my 1st Teacher,my 1st Instructor,my 1st best Friend,My Dad.
Post by: TexMex on July 10, 2006, 07:38:00 AM
Steve, prayers go to you, your dad and all the family.  I lost my dad 3 years ago.

May God Bless.
Title: Re: Having to say goodby to my 1st Teacher,my 1st Instructor,my 1st best Friend,My Dad.
Post by: RayMO on July 10, 2006, 07:46:00 AM
Prayers send, they never really leave ya. I know.
All of the teachings and examples are stronger than ever when they leave.

God Bless
Title: Re: Having to say goodby to my 1st Teacher,my 1st Instructor,my 1st best Friend,My Dad.
Post by: AnointedArcher on July 10, 2006, 08:36:00 AM
Praying for you and your family.
Title: Re: Having to say goodby to my 1st Teacher,my 1st Instructor,my 1st best Friend,My Dad.
Post by: Doc Nock on July 10, 2006, 08:50:00 AM
Very touching testement to your Dad, Steve.  Lost mom last year at age 83 and now my Dad at 84 is showing some signs of decline as well..mostly mental---he has had the medical issues a long time.

You have my deepest well wishes, & prayers for a dignified transition for your Dad to be with our Heavenly Father.

Prayers for blessings to your Dad, Mother, yourself and other family members.  May our loving God bring peace and comfort to all of you in this difficult time.
Title: Re: Having to say goodby to my 1st Teacher,my 1st Instructor,my 1st best Friend,My Dad.
Post by: twotimer on July 10, 2006, 10:18:00 AM
i just left the hospital,said goodby to one of my best friends,father figure,brother figure,what ever,i don't know if he heard me or not,but he sort of smiled,it is just a matters of moments or hours,friday night the doctors said a few hours to 72 hours.enjoy the time left.prayers and well wishes for you and your's thru these trying times.robert
Title: Re: Having to say goodby to my 1st Teacher,my 1st Instructor,my 1st best Friend,My Dad.
Post by: Doc Nock on July 10, 2006, 07:03:00 PM
Robert,

Prayers for peace and easy path for your friend/brother/father figure as well. And for you to keep him in your heart forever.

Continued prayers for Steve and his family as well.

Thank You, Lord Jesus for never leaving us to fight these battles of the body or heart alone. Amen.
Title: Re: Having to say goodby to my 1st Teacher,my 1st Instructor,my 1st best Friend,My Dad.
Post by: JC on July 11, 2006, 02:49:00 PM
Prayers sent here also....I cannot begin to imagine the pain of losing my father. May the Lord bless your father, your family and you with His peace.
Title: Re: Having to say goodby to my 1st Teacher,my 1st Instructor,my 1st best Friend,My Dad.
Post by: Squirrel Bait on July 11, 2006, 07:54:00 PM
My thoughts are with your whole family. Lost my Dad , 4 yrs. ago this past May. It doesn't get any easier with time. I was going to call him on the way home from work May 22, got busy and just forgot , 12:10 a.m. , I got the call that he was gone, he had a blood clot in his leg that the doctors missed. It let loose and hit him in the heart. The thing that hurts most is I didn't get to say good-bye. Spend as much time with him as you can.
Title: Re: Having to say goodby to my 1st Teacher,my 1st Instructor,my 1st best Friend,My Dad.
Post by: bayoulongbowman on July 15, 2006, 12:55:00 PM
Steve, My prayers are for you and family and you're Dad...good thoughts and peace...Lord I ask you to comfort Steve and family...Marco#78
Title: Re: Having to say goodby to my 1st Teacher,my 1st Instructor,my 1st best Friend,My Dad.
Post by: DMaster on July 17, 2006, 09:52:00 AM
We thank you Father, that we never lose anyone in Christ Jesus, rather that they cross over Jordan into the Promised Land before us. We thank you for the men whom have chosen the best path, that is to be a good parent, father and husband, and to lead their families in righteousness and holiness.  We complain at times Father about the conditions of this sinful world, but Lord if we would just dedicate ourselves to our roles as the spiritual head of our families we could make great improvements to this world. Help us to be great fathers and help us to be thankful and appreciate those men that are, in Jesus name we pray, Amen.

In His Love and Service,
peace
Title: Re: Having to say goodby to my 1st Teacher,my 1st Instructor,my 1st best Friend,My Dad.
Post by: thp on July 18, 2006, 01:43:00 AM
Steve, God bless you and your family.  Touched by your words about your father.  Those of us who have had great fathers are so blessed.  My prayers are with you and your father.
Title: Re: Having to say goodby to my 1st Teacher,my 1st Instructor,my 1st best Friend,My Dad.
Post by: luv2bowhunt on July 18, 2006, 11:08:00 AM
Steve, your father is in my prayers.

Kevin.
Title: Re: Having to say goodby to my 1st Teacher,my 1st Instructor,my 1st best Friend,My Dad.
Post by: Shell on July 20, 2006, 05:16:00 PM
Bless you and your family Steve and enjoy your time with him. I lost my dad in 2000 from a sudden heart attack on top of a cerebrial hemmorage. Due to both simultanius, they were'nt able to revive him (he had a major stroke 4 years before). I lost one of my best friends that day and never got to say goodbye, was always working long hours and always put off going to meet him for coffee & hot cocoa for me.

He went through so much for us and never left when he was at his witts end, 6 kids and numerous dead end jobs to keep us fed and clothed, military man too who taught and loved us unconditionally.

I'm saying we do know and feel the pain of the grief and also the same with Frank's dad who died slowly of cancer (also a Navy man, USS Indiana in WW2). He too was a big strong man who wasted away to 90 lbs. before his death 4 months after my dad. We did get to spend time with him and just want to encourage you more than anything and to relate with you so please forgive the long words....

Just know that God does give comfort, understands and desires for us to come to Him with our grief and concerns.

Prayers to you and your family. Shell&Frank
Title: Re: Having to say goodby to my 1st Teacher,my 1st Instructor,my 1st best Friend,My Dad.
Post by: Stalker58 on July 25, 2006, 07:44:00 PM
Thank you All,for the kind words.They help.
Title: Re: Having to say goodby to my 1st Teacher,my 1st Instructor,my 1st best Friend,My Dad.
Post by: southpawshooter on August 15, 2006, 10:21:00 AM
Steve,

I don't visit here as much as I should.  I am sorry to hear of your father's illness.  I lost my father nearly a year ago when he passed suddenly and unexpectedly.  If there is something to be grateful for, it is the fact that you have some time left to tell your father how you feel.  Prayers for you and your family in this time of need.
Title: Re: Having to say goodby to my 1st Teacher,my 1st Instructor,my 1st best Friend,My Dad.
Post by: Stalker58 on August 30, 2006, 09:24:00 PM
Thank you ALL,for your concerns.
Dad's hanging in there,tough old SOB,they don't make'em like that anymore.
It's tough watching him,running out of breath just going upstairs...
MAN! I wish I could do SOMETHING!

 :banghead:
Title: Re: Having to say goodby to my 1st Teacher,my 1st Instructor,my 1st best Friend,My Dad.
Post by: Doc Nock on August 31, 2006, 10:38:00 PM
Steve,

There  is something you can do and it sounds like you're doing it...spend as much time with dad as you can... talking...letting him talk about his fears, his hopes, and whatever he needs to talk about the "end times." Find a way to be that rock for him..much as it hurts and as powerless as it feels...

Greater love has no one then to endure tremendous pain in the name of love...you can't change what is going on...but you can be there is ways that will rip yer guts out... but you'll never regret it.  I know how it was with my Mom 18 months ago... best few weeks I ever had with her...but the most painful at the time.

God will bring you to it and He'll bring you through it. Prayers continue...
Title: Re: Having to say goodby to my 1st Teacher,my 1st Instructor,my 1st best Friend,My Dad.
Post by: venisonburger on September 01, 2006, 12:49:00 AM
I'm so sorry you have to bear this pain, but thank you for sharing it, I'll make sure I tell my Dad I love him before I'm forced to do it because of a disease or accident. Gods grace be with you and your family, your Dads obviously done a good job raising you, you sound like a compassionate loving person.
I don't know your pain, but I sense it's large. I'll pray for you.
VB
Title: Re: Having to say goodby to my 1st Teacher,my 1st Instructor,my 1st best Friend,My Dad.
Post by: Stalker58 on December 01, 2006, 01:09:00 PM
Just got off the phone with Hospice,one tough call.
Doctors give my Dad 2months.
I hope they are painless ones.
Title: Re: Having to say goodby to my 1st Teacher,my 1st Instructor,my 1st best Friend,My Dad.
Post by: George D. Stout on December 02, 2006, 06:05:00 AM
Prayers from Pa.  George
Title: Re: Having to say goodby to my 1st Teacher,my 1st Instructor,my 1st best Friend,My Dad.
Post by: ber643 on December 02, 2006, 06:22:00 AM
Adding my prayers also, Steve.
Title: Re: Having to say goodby to my 1st Teacher,my 1st Instructor,my 1st best Friend,My Dad.
Post by: bayoulongbowman on December 02, 2006, 08:31:00 AM
Steve, more prayers from , Mark#78...God Bless
Title: Re: Having to say goodby to my 1st Teacher,my 1st Instructor,my 1st best Friend,My Dad.
Post by: Doc Nock on December 02, 2006, 02:46:00 PM
Sorry to hear things are moving quickly.  You're doing all the right things by your Dad and he will always be with you.

Peace and the Grace of God's love to keep you and all at peace... prayers of peace and joy for your father during this difficult transition to His glory!
Title: Re: Having to say goodby to my 1st Teacher,my 1st Instructor,my 1st best Friend,My Dad.
Post by: Stalker58 on December 23, 2006, 08:14:00 AM
I was by his side,holding him,told him I love him,when he passed.4:46PM thursday.
We lay him to rest today.
I will miss him.
Thank you Everyone,for your kind words and prayers.
Peace to you ALL.

Steve Darcy(Proud son of Edward Darcy)
Title: Re: Having to say goodby to my 1st Teacher,my 1st Instructor,my 1st best Friend,My Dad.
Post by: Doc Nock on December 23, 2006, 09:13:00 AM
Thanks,Steve, from taking time from your grief to come here and share with us.

You help remind us that none of us are eternal and that in the midst of the busyness of this season, we NEED to stop and remember, this is all about God's love for us.."that He so loved the world..."

He lost His son for us and you've lost your father. Now your Father is with our Father.  Guess that sorta makes us all brothers, doesn't it? I shed tears with and for your loss, but also tears of Joy knowing that your dad is now standing Perfect before Christ along with all those who we've all lost.

May you find some comfort in this time of grief and transition knowing that we all share your pain, as does our Lord. Someday we'll all be reunited in Glory. What a time that will be!

Peace, Steve, peace to you and your loved ones at this difficult time.
Title: Re: Having to say goodby to my 1st Teacher,my 1st Instructor,my 1st best Friend,My Dad.
Post by: redeemed on December 24, 2006, 01:43:00 PM
Sorry to hear about your loss. People say it gets easier with time, I am here to tell you thats not always the case. You see I lost my father on feb. 13,1999. I,like you,was there comforting him as he made his journey across the Jordan River,and all I can do now, to keep it in some type of perspective,is to allow the one whom holds my dad, to hold and comfort me. Read John 15 the father is talking about abiding in Him and He in us, the meaning is somewhat deeper than this theologically but just know when we abide in Him and He in us,there is a joy that passes all human understanding.May you find pease in the Great comforters arms,God Bless.
Title: Re: Having to say goodby to my 1st Teacher,my 1st Instructor,my 1st best Friend,My Dad.
Post by: Peckerwood on December 24, 2006, 03:28:00 PM
Steve, just read your post with a tear in my eye  remembering the passing of my own dad.
 I 'm sorry for your "temporary" loss . Just remember that it is only temporary and soon we will all be together were there is no grief or pain. I know that these words won't cancel the loss you feel for your dad but be assured that  he is now in the place we all want to be.
Bill
Title: Re: Having to say goodby to my 1st Teacher,my 1st Instructor,my 1st best Friend,My Dad.
Post by: OconeeDan on December 24, 2006, 04:57:00 PM
Very sorry for your loss.
Title: Re: Having to say goodby to my 1st Teacher,my 1st Instructor,my 1st best Friend,My Dad.
Post by: Al Dente on December 25, 2006, 10:43:00 AM
So sorry for your loss.  Let your memories of him live on in your heart and mind.
Title: Re: Having to say goodby to my 1st Teacher,my 1st Instructor,my 1st best Friend,My Dad.
Post by: Alex.B on December 25, 2006, 07:19:00 PM
Steve,
my condoleances, bro'
take care

Alex
Title: Re: Having to say goodby to my 1st Teacher,my 1st Instructor,my 1st best Friend,My Dad.
Post by: rawshaft on December 25, 2006, 10:50:00 PM
Sorry to hear....
Title: Re: Having to say goodby to my 1st Teacher,my 1st Instructor,my 1st best Friend,My Dad.
Post by: southpawshooter on December 26, 2006, 09:26:00 PM
Steve,

I'm sorry for your loss.  You have my deepest sympathies.
Title: Re: Having to say goodby to my 1st Teacher,my 1st Instructor,my 1st best Friend,My Dad.
Post by: Benny Nganabbarru on December 28, 2006, 12:09:00 AM
Steve.....

Thoughts and prayers for you.

From Ben